This desi didn't change her accent in all her years in America and here's how it went...
Do you suffer from the accent morphing syndrome?
My accent never changed when I lived in the US, I clung to my urban-Indian accent throughout. You might hear a sprinkling of a Marathi accent on it; not like "my pen is not wHorkeeeeng" like the Marathis say, but if you listened closely, I'd sound Bombay/Pune.
Have you seen some desis talk to an American?
It's funny. One second they are full desi accent + sentence structure, like "Where to go only, yaar!" and the next second they turn to an American, they layer a twisted accent on top of being desi, like "Suuuureee. I wanna Staaap beckause I kin drive vayrey FAYY-st".
I cringed at Indians who morphed their accent when they spoke to Americans. It sounded terrible to me-like nails on a chalkboard, or worthy of rolling your eyes. I used to think it's because they are insecure- but slowly- my close friends turned out to have the accent-morphing syndrome and they were confident secure people!
Accent morphing doesn't go unnoticed
I had an American roommate once, and she asked me quietly "Why do Indians change their accent when they talk to Americans?". Americans actually appreciate the original accent. And because I used my full-blown Indian "convented" English accent in the US, I'd have colleagues tell me "I LOVE your accent"!
Once I even got a "if I had your accent, I'd be a billionaire".
I've taken a 'hypocrites' oath!
Having established I ain't gonna change my accent, I will admit I've taken a hypocrites oath, coz there is one accent I would love to adopt: the British accent.
Even curse words sound royal in British English! If I had a British accent I think I'd make more friends and have a cult following ;). For now, I've changed my iPhone to speak British English to me.
The accent war has a real winner :)